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Welcome to Miss Molly and Aspergers! :)

Hello there, welcome to my blog Miss Molly and Aspergers! My name is Molly and I am a teenage girl with Aspergers Syndrome.

I have created this blog to help create awareness of Autism Spectrum Disorder.

TIP: Search Aspergers on Facebook and you will find dozens of amazing communities and support networks! If you choose to interact in one of these communities, you may even make some great friends who are also Aspies, like I have.

Why you may find use in my blog:
Insight, support, self-research/experience and understanding (awareness) will be covered in the content of Miss Molly and Aspergers, including the following subjects and more:

- Bullying/dealing with peers
- Surviving in social situations
- Hobbies/Obsessions and Interests
- School/Life
- Communication - Social skills - Understanding spoken and unspoken language norms.
- Sensory Issues/ sound, smell, sight, taste, feel, (textures) - the ability to experience heightened senses - and coping with the strong diversions (intolerance)
- Importance of Routine and Structure
- Friendships
- Coping with Meltdowns and dealing with the aftermath (consequences - I.e Social embarrassment)
- Dealing with people who do not acknowledge the existence of The Autism Spectrum (ASD). People who therefore are unable to acknowledge the rhyme and reasons for your differences.

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Friday, June 15, 2012

My experience with school work

Hello everyone, today I would like to share my experiences with school work, as maybe you might be able to relate yourself or your children to what I have to share.

Being an Aspie I have a pretty cluey mind, I am great at Maths, and I put a lot of detail into my school work, also this detailing habit almost always means I go over the word limit by hundreds in my assignments and essays.

I have a lot of trouble getting all my work done in class time, as I like to perfect what I am doing, I am also very sensitive to noise and discussions between students in class as this can make it difficult for me to concentrate on the task in front of me.

I find, particularly during Maths class, I have to process the question in my own way. If I get distracted I just have to re work out the sum even if I have written half of it already.

I have struggles interpreting questions but once I know what it means and I understand what I have to do, it just clicks in my brain and I can work it all out really well.

Maths is my favourite subject by the way, all I can say is I find everything just fits together, unlike English where there is so many variations to one question, and theories I struggle upon the most. Theories are particuly challenging for Aspies, because we are very factual and literal. Thats why maths is great its all facts and figures..which means there is a straight answer.

I end up taking a lot of my work home to finish in my own time where I can concentrate better and work while not under pressure.

The hardest thing for me with school work is when we have to take notes from videos, I don't get enough time to process what is happening on the screen therefore I cannot drop down a note on it in time. And also because the one screen is being viewed by the whole class it is very impracticable for the other students and teacher for me to ask for it to be re-winded and paused in between doting down notes. Distance Education was a great advantage for me through out my time with Brisbane School of Distance Education, I had only myself to worry about and I could have as much time as I need and the free will to pause and rewind.

I would like to aware that, having a mind that processes slower by all means does not make you dumb, I get B's and A's when I allow myself time to work at my own pace by taking my assignments home to do. Aspies can be very intelligent people they just need to have adjusted working conditions to feel comfortable, and then they can really shine and produce some magnificent work.


What are your or your childrens experiences with school work? Please feel free to reply below I am always egar to here others experiences with Aspergers Syndrome. :)


- Molly

Friday, June 1, 2012

Motivation Tips for Study

I have a few tips to share that I use to help get me motivated to study or to work on assignments or homework.

1. Have a clean and tidy space to work in:
I find if my room and desk is messy and unclean I feel yuck. It is also a reminder of something I have do, which distracts my mind from concentrating on the work in front of me.

2. Have a quiet space away from distractions to work in (unless you enjoy noises such as music while studying):
Nothing stops me from getting my work done than a loud noise in the back ground or one of my kittens jumping around my room messing things up.
So close the doors or windows if there is noise outside, or turn the tv off or ask your family to quite things down.Or if your like me with a pet that runs a muck, pick them up and take them outside and shut the door.

3. Energies you brain:
 I am intolerant to caffeine, so I know of other alternatives to give yourself a boost.
The best alternative is: Mint!
Mint is known as an excellent brain stimulant. You can get this benefit of mint from herbal mint tea to drink before you start or sip during your study.
And lolly mints are great too. They are also good because having something in your mouth to chew on and taste helps many people to concentrate.

4. Have short breaks to refresh yourself:
10 to 15 minute breaks are great in between study. You can use this time to stretch and do some brief exercises and have a snack.
When choosing a snack opt for something like fruit and nuts.
Having a sugary snack such as a chocolate bar will give you initial energy but this energy is from sugar that is high GI which means you get this boost, but it won't last and you will end up having a real low.  Which could result in fatigue and lack of concentration. Fruits and nut sugars are low GI which means that when consumed you can sustain energy for longer.

5. Think about how you will feel once you have it all done:
You will have a weight lifted off your shoulders and you will have time to do what you like without worrying about the study you have to do.

I hope these will help you. Leave a comment below, if you like. I would love to know how you went or if you have anyone other tips to share. :)

~ Molly xo

Aspies struggle to think before acting/speaking - please read this to understand

I would like to share this experience of mine.

I have found after settling into my new school, my first mainstream high school after 4 years of Distance Education, I have a habit that has resurfaced.

I mention in my first post that I had taught myself to "think before I act".

However I am finding I am starting to increasingly slip things out with out thinking.
This is a detrimental Aspergers trait.

Many Aspergers kids have this trouble which can cause them to be bullied and looked down upon.

There are things we will say or do in the present. Only after will we realize it was the wrong thing to have done and that's when we suffer consequences. Wether that be punishment for a wrong doing or conflict from peers.

We do this because we say what ever comes to top of our thoughts. It is to do with how we process information.
This can cause us to say things we mean a different way to how others interpret it.
Once said we are left with the struggle to convince the others what we were actual meant to say. Which can easily back fire as they get confused and we easily stumble over words.

We will speak what our brain have processed from the present social situations and surroundings. This is a way of release for us. This can be an issue when we think things through differently to what is actually going on.

There are Aspies that will not acknowledge their wrong doing.
For those who do; we will spend a lot of time and energy dwelling on our mistakes.

I ask for those of you supporting, living, working and socializing with an Aspie:
 To tell us when we do or say something wrong whilst giving us understanding.

If we known the difference between the wrong and right things we do and say. We can acknowledge our mistakes and learn from them.

Please recognize it is very hard to train our minds to "think before we act". 
We can improve this and may eventually train ourselves to do this completely. However sometimes through difficult situations our speaking/doing before we think can again become prevalent.

If you can understand this is a hard thing for us to do and to accept the odd thing we will say. Things will be much more pleasant for all in the situation.

~ Molly xo