When an Aspie is made to feel Annoying

As an Aspergers girl I have experienced many times over, the feeling of being a nuisance because of  my actions and responses which are not considered normal social behavior.

The worst thing for an Aspie to experience is when a person struggles to understand us and our behaviour.  

The person instead of learning why we are different, they excluded us and  treat us like a nuisance.

It is uttermost heartbreaking for the Aspie to feel like they annoy everyone. 

Yet many do not see how deeply it affects the Aspie. Many Aspies end up experiencing depression because of this. I often think how can I change so people like me and not think I am annoying? But at the end of the day you can't help but be yourself especially if you have Aspergers.

I have a younger sister who is very capable at normal social behaviour. A person often finds it easier to interact and socialize with her rather then myself.

Then the cycle begins, I am left excluded and they continue to enjoy each others company while I am made to occupy myself.

What can you do differently when you meet an Aspie (how you can make them feel understood):

1. Accept them as they are

2. Tolerate them (they can't help the way they are, just as you can't help but be the person you are!)

3. Treat them the way you treat everyone else

4. Include them (don't exclude them) 

5. Return their efforts to be friendly.

We want to make friends just like everyone.

Take note of this quote: don't criticize what you don't understand.

~ Molly xo

Its a Personality Type!

Hello again.
I thought this would be a good opportunity to tell you a bit about who I am and my differences.

I believe Aspergers is a personality type. Yes it can affect you with your daily life. This is why its been labelled a condition/disability. However in many cases Aspergers isn't a condition or disability. Aspergers is just who we are and how we are with other people.

My Asperger's/Personality traits:
- I am very literal, I take things as I hear them and I always react before I think.
- I have anxiety when it comes to new people . I can be awkward and shy.
- Because of my little success with making friends I can worry about what I've done and said (more anxiety).
- I am pretty good at school, I can fully focus on one thing at a time.
- I get very comfortable around people I've known along time. My weird and quirky sense of humor and chatterbox traits sets in. In other words I trust them and can come out with my feelings and thoughts openly. However sometimes I do this too much (this is where I need friends who are accepting and understanding).
- I give little eye contact. When I do, I have trouble judging when its time to break from the eye contact. Therefore I either stare too much or not enough.

My traits provide me with a fun, crazy, quirky personality! I am trustworthy, understanding, tolerant, accepting, caring. I appreciative all those who love and support me. I stay true to those who stay true to me.

These are the most important things to understand about me! However I cannot explain this to all the new people I meet. It takes people who are willing to understand and learn to come here and read my blog.

- Molly xo

Introduction - Aspergers Me

My name is Molly.


For as long as I can remember I have always been different. I have had a battle with fitting in for my whole life.


My family and I have moved around so much.

I have been to so many schools and every time I went to begin a new school.

I would say to myself;

"this is a fresh start Molly. If you you change the way you act. Think before you do or say anything. You will be accepted. You will make friends at this new school".

This never worked. I always spoke what I thought. I didn't know then. This was something you were not suppose to do. 
I got bullied at every primary school I went to, because they didn't understand me.


In 2008 I left mainstream school. I began homeschooling through distance education.
I really gave my mum some hell. However we pushed through the struggles and I managed to completed year 10 of high school.

I am now in year 11. I have made an integration into TAFE to complete my last two years of high school.


Somehow I changed through my duration of Distance Education.
I taught myself 'the think before you act' rule. I use to be a crazy kid. Now I have turned myself into this quiet, shy, mature person. This however only applies around people who are not my family, lol.


I am a teenage girl with Aspergers Syndrome.
Aspergers is an Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD).


I now realise I made a mistake. I never told anyone in primary school I had Aspergers. 
I was always concerned when my mum mentioned it to someone. 
Maybe if I said something then they would know why I behaved that way. 
However I was young and so were and they. They would not have really known what Aspergers was, nor did I really. 


People with Aspergers (Not all these traits will apply to every Aspie):

• Can be hypersensitive: ie; sensitive to loud noises, can get emotional easily

• Find it hard to make and keep friends

• Find it hard to hold and keep eye contact, read and understand facial expressions and body language.

• Have an absence feeling of empathy or a prevalence of too much empathy. (Certain triggers set of our empathy. For example when I found an old picture of my cat. I never grieved until then. I broke down and cried for days when I found this)

• Do not get hints and social cues.

• Can have great intellectual capabilities

• Have good memories and ability to retain knowledge

• Can be very literal; such as with jokes and pranks

• Develop special interests which Aspies have great ability to have a full focus of. (Aspies can be very successful because of this capability because of their obsessiveness over one hobby/interest).

• Begin speaking at early age or usual age (Unlike Autism as Autistic children usually beginning speaking at a later age).

• Can have rigid and inflexible thinking: Can not get Aspie to change their idea or thoughts on a situation.

I have created this blog with intention to help other people and teenagers with Aspergers like me. I want you to know there are more people out there then you know.


I understand what it is like to:

• Not be accepted or understood by your peers

• Be made fun of and bullied because you see things differently to others

• Feel like you have a label which will be with you all your life (You need to bring it up as an excuse for the way you may have behaved in a situation).

• Feel like you have to do things a certain way no matter how silly it appears to others.
• Be pushed around from one psychologist to another, a never ending battle to find stability in the Mental Heath System.

• Feel embarrassed after meltdowns which you feel like you can not control them.
• Feel frustrated when you cannot get people to understand how you see a situation

I have so much more to share, but for now this will be my introduction. Please follow and feel free to leave a comment. I would love to hear from you! :)