Avoiding Confussion

 Aspie: A person who has Aspergers

As an Aspie I find it difficult in many daily situations; To interpret and follow simply instructions.
I often find myself asking questions to clarify what it is I am meant to be doing, but people get annoyed because I clarify too often. It is important you know I am not trying to be annoying I am just trying to understand.

Here is an example:

An Aspergers boy is asked simply to clear the table.
He would then follow your instructions and clear everything off the table. This including unfinished meals and drinks. In the eyes of the nerotypical person he is considered silly or stupid. However if he had asked before clearing the table: "Do I leave their drinks, what if people are still eating?"
He would also be considered silly, stupid or annoying for asking these questions rarely asked by neurotypical people. He may also be accused of not listening to instructions.

Aspies understand the words you say (What we hear directly). Not the meaning behind what you say. Especially sarcasm, jokes and when you tell us things that are not genuine.

Most Apies believe what they hear. We are not given enough time to think about the other properties and meanings of the words spoken, the majority of neurotypical people wouldn’t need this time because in my words: they just get it.
I find that I react before I have the time to think about what has been said, and I’ve done this for so long now it’s a habit. The influence of this is that I am afraid to stand there thinking because if I were to do this I would find myself thoroughly thinking it through as we do (we are not satisfied until we’ve looked at it from all angles).
This is when someone waves a hand in front of me to see if I am paying attention. I am often told I appear to be in my own world at times. This is usually when I am over thinking.

What we want you to understand:
I want people to understand and tolerate myself and others with Aspergers.
Our attributes shouldn’t be used against us or to humiliate us.
As well as this; you need to accept and answer our questions. They might sound silly or annoying however the point is we are people who deserve understanding.
Think about how it would feel to be in our situations. Where you would be in trouble for something you can’t help doing.
Considered rude, stupid, annoying? Well this is how we feel every day when faced common social situations.

~ Molly xo

My experience with school work

Hello everyone, today I would like to share my experiences with school work, as maybe you might be able to relate yourself or your children to what I have to share.

Being an Aspie I have a pretty cluey mind, I am great at Maths, and I put a lot of detail into my school work, also this detailing habit almost always means I go over the word limit by hundreds in my assignments and essays.

I have a lot of trouble getting all my work done in class time, as I like to perfect what I am doing, I am also very sensitive to noise and discussions between students in class as this can make it difficult for me to concentrate on the task in front of me.

I find, particularly during Maths class, I have to process the question in my own way. If I get distracted I just have to re work out the sum even if I have written half of it already.

I have struggles interpreting questions but once I know what it means and I understand what I have to do, it just clicks in my brain and I can work it all out really well.

Maths is my favourite subject by the way, all I can say is I find everything just fits together, unlike English where there is so many variations to one question, and theories I struggle upon the most. Theories are particuly challenging for Aspies, because we are very factual and literal. Thats why maths is great its all facts and figures..which means there is a straight answer.

I end up taking a lot of my work home to finish in my own time where I can concentrate better and work while not under pressure.

The hardest thing for me with school work is when we have to take notes from videos, I don't get enough time to process what is happening on the screen therefore I cannot drop down a note on it in time. And also because the one screen is being viewed by the whole class it is very impracticable for the other students and teacher for me to ask for it to be re-winded and paused in between doting down notes. Distance Education was a great advantage for me through out my time with Brisbane School of Distance Education, I had only myself to worry about and I could have as much time as I need and the free will to pause and rewind.

I would like to aware that, having a mind that processes slower by all means does not make you dumb, I get B's and A's when I allow myself time to work at my own pace by taking my assignments home to do. Aspies can be very intelligent people they just need to have adjusted working conditions to feel comfortable, and then they can really shine and produce some magnificent work.


What are your or your childrens experiences with school work? Please feel free to reply below I am always egar to here others experiences with Aspergers Syndrome. :)


- Molly

Motivation Tips for Study

I have a few tips to share that I use to help get me motivated to study or to work on assignments or homework.

1. Have a clean and tidy space to work in:
I find if my room and desk is messy and unclean I feel yuck. It is also a reminder of something I have do, which distracts my mind from concentrating on the work in front of me.

2. Have a quiet space away from distractions to work in (unless you enjoy noises such as music while studying):
Nothing stops me from getting my work done than a loud noise in the back ground or one of my kittens jumping around my room messing things up.
So close the doors or windows if there is noise outside, or turn the tv off or ask your family to quite things down.Or if your like me with a pet that runs a muck, pick them up and take them outside and shut the door.

3. Energies you brain:
 I am intolerant to caffeine, so I know of other alternatives to give yourself a boost.
The best alternative is: Mint!
Mint is known as an excellent brain stimulant. You can get this benefit of mint from herbal mint tea to drink before you start or sip during your study.
And lolly mints are great too. They are also good because having something in your mouth to chew on and taste helps many people to concentrate.

4. Have short breaks to refresh yourself:
10 to 15 minute breaks are great in between study. You can use this time to stretch and do some brief exercises and have a snack.
When choosing a snack opt for something like fruit and nuts.
Having a sugary snack such as a chocolate bar will give you initial energy but this energy is from sugar that is high GI which means you get this boost, but it won't last and you will end up having a real low.  Which could result in fatigue and lack of concentration. Fruits and nut sugars are low GI which means that when consumed you can sustain energy for longer.

5. Think about how you will feel once you have it all done:
You will have a weight lifted off your shoulders and you will have time to do what you like without worrying about the study you have to do.

I hope these will help you. Leave a comment below, if you like. I would love to know how you went or if you have anyone other tips to share. :)

~ Molly xo