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Friday, June 1, 2012

Aspies struggle to think before acting/speaking - please read this to understand

I would like to share this experience of mine.

I have found after settling into my new school, my first mainstream high school after 4 years of Distance Education, I have a habit that has resurfaced.

I mention in my first post that I had taught myself to "think before I act".

However I am finding I am starting to increasingly slip things out with out thinking.
This is a detrimental Aspergers trait.

Many Aspergers kids have this trouble which can cause them to be bullied and looked down upon.

There are things we will say or do in the present. Only after will we realize it was the wrong thing to have done and that's when we suffer consequences. Wether that be punishment for a wrong doing or conflict from peers.

We do this because we say what ever comes to top of our thoughts. It is to do with how we process information.
This can cause us to say things we mean a different way to how others interpret it.
Once said we are left with the struggle to convince the others what we were actual meant to say. Which can easily back fire as they get confused and we easily stumble over words.

We will speak what our brain have processed from the present social situations and surroundings. This is a way of release for us. This can be an issue when we think things through differently to what is actually going on.

There are Aspies that will not acknowledge their wrong doing.
For those who do; we will spend a lot of time and energy dwelling on our mistakes.

I ask for those of you supporting, living, working and socializing with an Aspie:
 To tell us when we do or say something wrong whilst giving us understanding.

If we known the difference between the wrong and right things we do and say. We can acknowledge our mistakes and learn from them.

Please recognize it is very hard to train our minds to "think before we act". 
We can improve this and may eventually train ourselves to do this completely. However sometimes through difficult situations our speaking/doing before we think can again become prevalent.

If you can understand this is a hard thing for us to do and to accept the odd thing we will say. Things will be much more pleasant for all in the situation.

~ Molly xo

1 comment:

  1. I'm an aspergers guy too, I can really relate to this - I keep putting my foot in things at work, making me worried about my job stability but its hard processing the outcome of something before it happens.